I am so excited to be joining Erika and Shay for their monthly link-up called Workin' It Wednesdays! In honor of Valentine's Day, today's topic is all about keeping your marriage strong.
Bobby and I will celebrate thirteen years of marriage this year, which absolutely blows me away! I just cannot believe how fast time goes. I am going to sound completely cheesy here and say that I love being married and that I have a pretty incredible husband. But yes, he does have flaws, I most certainly have flaws, and our marriage is not perfect. We have been through some very difficult times, because life happens. We chose to let those things grow us and strengthen our marriage, but it's not always easy.
One of the most important things that I think we do is that we remember we are on the same team. We honestly don't really fight, because why would I want to fight with someone who is on my side? We might disagree and have a discussion about something, but at the end of the discussion we will either come to an agreement or agree to disagree. Either way, we both listen to each other because we respect each other and value each other's opinions, and we both come away feeling like we have been heard. There's no yelling or arguing or trying to "win" a fight, because if I win, then he loses. And why would I ever want my husband to lose?
Along with being on the same team is teamwork. Life can get so busy and hectic; sometimes it feels like we're just coming and going and trying to keep up with it all! But knowing that there is someone who is always is my corner, someone who has my back and will pick up my slack, and vise versa - there is just so much peace in that.
We also talk a lot. About everything and about nothing! Because how can we talk about the hard things when they come up if we aren't already used to talking with each other? Constant communication that is open and honest is so important.
And above all? Pray. Pray for each other and pray for your marriage. And then pray some more.
Marriage is hard because life is hard, but it is so, so worth it! I sure am thankful that I get to do life with this man of mine.
One of the most important things that I think we do is that we remember we are on the same team. We honestly don't really fight, because why would I want to fight with someone who is on my side? We might disagree and have a discussion about something, but at the end of the discussion we will either come to an agreement or agree to disagree. Either way, we both listen to each other because we respect each other and value each other's opinions, and we both come away feeling like we have been heard. There's no yelling or arguing or trying to "win" a fight, because if I win, then he loses. And why would I ever want my husband to lose?
Along with being on the same team is teamwork. Life can get so busy and hectic; sometimes it feels like we're just coming and going and trying to keep up with it all! But knowing that there is someone who is always is my corner, someone who has my back and will pick up my slack, and vise versa - there is just so much peace in that.
We also talk a lot. About everything and about nothing! Because how can we talk about the hard things when they come up if we aren't already used to talking with each other? Constant communication that is open and honest is so important.
And above all? Pray. Pray for each other and pray for your marriage. And then pray some more.
Marriage is hard because life is hard, but it is so, so worth it! I sure am thankful that I get to do life with this man of mine.
totally agree with remembering to be on the same team. its not a battle- you work at it together :)Really enjoyed your post and hope you'll stop by mine as well!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Cait! Loved your post as well!
DeleteLove your sweet pics and honest words. God Bless you both!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Lisa!
DeleteI love that you said you're on the same team. That is so true! We're in it together as teammates. And yes, pray for your husband! We love doing Bible studies together, too.
ReplyDeleteSarah at MeetTheShaneyfelts
Yes, Sarah! Doing bible studies together is awesome!
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